The position of mothers who depend financially on their husbands cannot break up when divorce occurs. How can a husband provide for a divorced wife? The trick is through child custody. Child custody, referred to as the ‘work’ given to a mother. Because it is called ‘work’, the mother has the right to get paid for the ‘job’. The fee must be issued by the husband.
The problem is, when a divorce occurs, the wife is often positioned as a party who is economically dependent on her husband. Indeed, the opposite has been found in many cases. But in marriage law, the husband is the provider of the family. In the event of a divorce the husband is obliged to give some money or living expenses to his wife.
What if a mother is financially secure? One reason behind the many custody of children who fall into the hands of husbands is financially secure mothers. “Now we see the practice. Why does the mother have many rights drawn as caregivers because she already has her own income, the average working mother is indeed custody of children drawn by the judge.
The ‘work’ context given to a mother to care for children when a divorce occurs is only done for justice. Indeed, parents, both fathers and mothers still have the responsibility to look after and care for children.
Child custody should be given to the mother if the child is not an adult and has not yet reached the height. Because mothers are more able to manage their children and are more diligent in caring for their children. But, according to him, child custody is also likely given to the father if the mother has bad behavior, and is considered incompetent to become a mother, especially in educating her child.
This means, if the child is less than 12 years old, custody is in his mother. Even if a mother is not good at cooking, that reason cannot be used to judge a mother for having a bad behavior that can eliminate child custody. If the mother prefers a career rather than caring for children, in terms of the law, the rights and position of the wife are balanced with the rights and positions of the husband in domestic life and social life together in the community.
So, even if a divorce occurs, both parents should keep in mind their mutual obligation to maintain the child’s growth and development. That’s much better than fighting over custody.